life begins at 40??

selalukan kita dengar phrase life begins at 40? especially for men...betul tak? hihih....kenapa yer saya nak share mengenai isu ni? ok...semalam Alhamdulilah my hubby safely arrived ...(Yay!! miss him so very much) so dia tengok saya tak masak dia kata lets dine-out...so of course i said okayyy yer....

so we went to restaurant shumkivit...a thai restaurant...and it was so hectic...sedang sibuk tunggu makanan secara kebetulan saya terpandang seorang lelaki yang dah 40++ tengah sibuk merenung kearah saya...erk??? okay...hubby selalu pesan bersangka baik dengan orang...so saya senyum la...kan senyum tu sedekah...you know what i've got? he winked at me!!! wink!! OMG....tak cukup dengan tu, senyum gatal kearah saya yer...

well well...serious waktu makan tu memang rasa tak selesa langsung! sebab si pakcik tu asyik tenung ajer saya...rasa nak amik garpu cucuk ajer mata dia...dah la his wife and his son ada kat situ...ish ish...bila balik saya bagitau hubby , and apa lagi marah ler dia sebab saya tak bagitau dia awal...erk?? my fault is it???

okay..enough about that...still meremang bulu roma saya bila saya teringat pasal tu....by the way, saya ada terbaca satu artikel mengenai lelaki yang berusia 40 tahun ni...mengikut kajian yang saya baca tu...lelaki ada hormon yang menyebabkan mereka akan jatuh cinta dua kali. First, when they reach 25 and the second one once they reach 40+++...erk????

hormon itu natural...so that's why bila kita tengok lelaki yang berumur 40++ akan start gatal sekali lagi..(tak semua yer)...kerana waktu dia reach 40 tu, they need more attention, and perlu dianggap worth it in their world...so kita sebagai isteri ni, tugas kita perlu membuat suami kita jatuh cinta berkali-kali dengan kita...jangan dengan orang lain sudah yer....peace!!!

Love letter for Mr Hubby.

Dear Mr hubby, 

Alhamdulilah it has been great wonderful 2 years we have been married. I am bless to have you besides me, guiding me through our married journey. 

Dear Mr hubby, 

You are my great inspirational. You are my great teacher. You are my best friend and you are the love of my life. 

Dear Mr Hubby, 

None of us are perfect. We fight due our differences, we laugh to the silly thing, and i cherished every moment that we have been together. You perfected me. 

Dear Mr Hubby, 

I am very grateful that i have you in my life. I thank GOD for giving me such wonderful person that can take care of me and our daughter InsyaALLAH for the rest of our life. 

Dear Mr Hubby, 

I once, never regretted that i lay my eyes on you. From the first time i saw you, you made my heart melt. You captivated me. 

Dear Mr Hubby, 

I love you and InsyaAllah will always loves you. InsyaAllah we will spent our time for the rest of our life till Jannah. Thanks for being my Husband, a wonderful husband i must say.

Happy Birthday and Happy 2nd Anniversary. 

Loves, 

Your wife, 

Rose. 

6 GOLONGAN WANITA YANG KURANG LAYAK DI JADIKAN SEORANG ISTERI

So gurls out there's asking high price for dowry, tapi berhenti Dan renung sejenak, adakah kita tergolong dalam golongan ini? Adakah bayaran hantaran itu setimpal dengan kita untuk menjadi isteri yang baik? Buat renungan Dan peringatan diri sendiri Dan anda.

1). Al -Anaanah
Banyak keluh kesah. Yang selalu merasa tak cukup, apa yg diberi semua tak cukup. diberi rumah tak cukup, diberi motor tak cukup, diberi mobil tak cukup, dll. Selalu ingin memenuhi kehendak nafsu sendiri, tanpa memperhatikan perasaan suami, tak hormat kepada suami apalagi berterima kasih pada suami. apa yg suami beri pun tak pernah puas. Ada saja yang tak cukup.

2). Al-Manaanah
Suka mengungkit. Kalau suami melakukan hal yg dia tak berkenan maka diungkitlah segala hal tentang suaminya itu. sangat senang membicarakan suami: tak ingat budi, tak bertanggung jawab, tak sayang, dll. Padahal suami sudah memberi perlindungan macam-macam padanya.

3). Al -Hunaana
Ingin pada suami yg lain atau berkenan kepada lelaki yg lain. sangat suka
membanding-bandingkan suaminya dengan suami/lelaki lain. Tak ridha dengan suami yangada. (Naudzubillah)

4). Al- Hudaaqah
Suka memaksa. Bila ingin sesuatu maka dipaksa suaminya melakukan. Pagi, petang malam asyik menekan dan memaksa suami. Adakalanya dengan berbagai ancaman: ingin lari, ingin bunuh diri, ingin membuat malu suami, dll. Suami dibuat seperti budaknya, bukan sebagai pemimpinnya. Yang dipentingkan adalah kehendak dan kepentingan dia saja.

5). Al-Hulaaqa
Sibuk bersolek atau tidur atau santai-santai dll hingga lalai dengan ibadah-ibadah asas, seperti shalat berjamaah, wirid zikir, mengurus rumah-tangga, berkasih sayang dengan anak-anak, dll.

6). As-Salaaqah
Banyak berbicara, menggosip. Siang malam, pagi petang asik menggosip terus. Apa saja yg suami kerjakan selalu tidak benar dimatanya.

Zaman sekarang bergosip bukan saja berbicara di depan suami, tapi dengan telfon, SMS, internet (facebook), BBM dan macam-macam cara yang lain.

Kesimpulan:
Isteri lebih asyik menyusahkan suami dengan kata-katanya yang menyakitkan, isteri lebih asik dengan dirinya sendiri.
Demikianlah yang harus kita perhatikan dari 6 golongan wanita yang kurang layak dijadikan isteri.

Semoga bermanfaat saudaraku untuk kaum adam maupun kaum hawa! Peace!

4 tanda suami anda curang

Tiba-tiba nak menulis pasal kecurangan or infidelity. Bukan apa rasa-rasanya rata-rata institusi rumahtangga pada zaman sekarang ni senang ajer nak bercerai berai. And of course one of the factor is infidelity. Hari ini sebenarnya saya dikejutkan berita from my friend saying that she's getting divorce! OMG! I am so surprised. As far as I am concern I must say that they are loving couple. When I asked about punca perceraian she simply said, he has other woman! Mmmm...Tarik nafas panjang...

So how to know that your hubby is cheating on you? Siapa yang tak percaya pada suami? Mesti rata-rata kaum isteri Akan jawab, saya percaya suami saya. He will never do that to me. Is that true? Tapi kalau hubby kita dah pandai mula berahsia, dah pandai nak berhiaskan diri depa, and keep looking at hp 24/7 or always sms-ing mesti kita Akan start curiga kan? Ker you gurls still thinks it's normal? Ok let's share symptoms2 ya.

1. Bila hubby mula menjaga penampilan

Okayyy...tak salah yer para suami untuk menjaga penampilan mereka. Seriously tak salah. Even my hubby sentiasa nak look smart masa keluar whether with me or his friend. Tapi kalau dah melebih-lebih mesti Ada something. Normally guys Akan keluar rumah dengan sangat simple. Kadang-kadang perfume pun dia tak pakai, just pakai deodorant jer. Tapi when they start doing something that they don't normally do...jaga-jaga yer! If dulu tak pernah cerewat dengan warna Baju yang isteri pilih, tapi sekarang dah start being picky..,ha...boleh start curiga? Anda tentukan!

2. Change on cellphone habit

Ohhh...this is big one! Memang biasa bila lelaki curang the first thing is handphone Akan sentiasa menjadi peneman mereka. Sometimes Ada yang beli dua handphone, Dan kalau tak pun pakai dua number. Bila para suami ini asyik menilik handphone, SMS-ing, senyum sorang-sorang, pakai password kat hp and mengelak bila wife Tanya siapa yang SMS or call dia..sah la tu!

3. Suami dah kurang beri perhatian

Isteri sentiasa nak bermanja Dan at least spending time with their beloved ones. Betulkan? Kalau dah ajak hubby lepak sama pun dia tak mau, and susah sgt nak jumpa hubby asyik kerja kerja kerja ajer, we should be suspicious ladies!

4. Suami sentiasa keluar rumah

Mmmm...bayangkan tiba-tiba hubby anda selalu keluar outstation? Or selalu Ada alasan like, malam ini nak main futsal, malam ini nak hang out with my friends, balik lambat la didn't wifey suppose to feel odd? Kalau saya memang saya hairan. Takkan asyik nak keluar ajer. Susah nak lekat dekat rumah. Takkan every day main futsal? Takkan everyday nak makan kat luar dengan kawan? Oh yeah..I will feel different and should find what is happening!

So far ini ajerla symptom yang selalu nampak terjadi between hubby and wifey. As a wife pun, kita kena selalu menarik perhatian suami. Jaga penampilan didepan suami. Jangan selekeh-selekeh. For me issue infidelity sangat sensitive. Sekarang ni bukan lelaki ajer yang curang even wife pun melakukan benda yang sama! Minta saya dijauhkan la dengan benda-benda begini..Amin...

Working mother with super extra energy!

Oh yeah...why am I writing about this? Lately I have not in my tip top condition. Means..with an extra job at the office, house chores, playing super wife and mum with hubby and Aisya I simply collapse!

The first symptom is I easily get tired, which rarely ever happen to me. Back then, I am super workaholic employees (partly true! Heheh) in which my job required me to attend 24/7 meetings and presenting and on top of that I need to review credit papers as well. Because of the working nature I mostly spent time at the office until late night. I get used to it and I don't know how but I fill up with some strange super energy. Even I was surprise how I get the strength!

Yet lately, as usual I am trying to be a super mummy. Yes i ain't get any helper and house chores is 120% on me! I cut my time in the office since I need to spent quality time with my family. Once I reached home, first thing first, I cook for my daughter and feed her. Once she stuffed she will play her stuff and that is the time I cook for hubby and do laundry etc etc. Aisya bed time is around 10pm. And most of the time she's abide with her bed time. When she sound asleep then only I can start cleaning my house, have some me-time. That is my routine.

But then, these past two weeks, I start feeling funny like I easily get tired, headache, fever, flu and so on. Well I mostly blame on the weather! Of course our weather is sooo unpredictable. It can be so hot at one time and heavily rain next thing i know. Yet I continuously feel tired and one day I strained my left hand. From the palm up to the elbow. Oh yes it hurts like hell! Hubby ask me to see doc and I refused, hoping that the pain will go away on their own. Duh!!

Until at one point, I can't hold Aisya anymore. I panicked! How am I going to take care of her? My hubby? BIG NO...he do help me though but still there is a limitation on it, like he so scared to bath Aisya! And FINALLY I realized that I need to see doctor.

You know what? Doctor said I overstressed myself. I am working beyond my limit that's why I drained my energy! So he prescribed me with some multivitamin that I can't miss to take! And one little advice from him was, I need to watch for myself first and ensure my health is superb before I can take care of my family! And advice to my hubby...he need to give me some rest time and he need to actively involve in taking care of our daughter as well! The doctor did give us a long lecture though that makes me cynically smile to my hubby!

One thing for sure, I am not super human, I need to have a rest and taking care of my health. I need to learn to delegate the work with hubby! So daddies and mommies out there, please please please ...do assists each other and hubby needs to be more understanding and volunteering to do house chores! Oh my..I wish I can advice my husband the same!

Isteri terbaik untuk suami...

Setiap isteri mengimpikan untuk menjadi isteri yang terbaik buat suami Dan para suami juga menginginkan isteri yang sempurna untuknya..

Isteri terbaik buat suami yang sentiasa mendoakan kesejahteraan suami, mendahulukan kehendak suami berbanding anak, etc...Kadangkala bila sibuk berkerja, balik rumah dah penat, suami pun kita tak hiraukan, sekadar bertanya ala kadar "dah balik bang".. Seharusnya sebagai isteri harusla menyambut suami dengan senyuman ketika Suami pulang berkerja Dan menyediakan air buat suami tanpa suami pinta...bila difikirkan balik, saya pun jarang buat benda ni...adui...lepas ni kena bermanis muka nie....hihi...

Yang paling Utama sebenarnya apa bila dah Ada anak, sampai kadangkala isteri terlupa bahawa suami perlu didahulukan sebelum anak-anak...ini mesti ramai para isteri terbabaskan? Same goes with me...adoi..kena muhasabah diri balik ni....nasib la my hubby jenis sporting...tapi tak bole terus beginikan? Bila hubby panggil and anak anak panggil at the same time, Kena jawab panggilan hubby dulu...ingat tu!! Nanti hubby pergi panggil perempuan lain pulak...nauzubillah harap dijauhkan...amin...

Bila memasak saya selalu Tanya hubby menu apa yang dia nak makan..and as usual my hubby Akan jawab tak kisah....apa lagi rembat kesempatan tu untuk masak makanan yang saya suka...sapa pernah buat macam ni?? Cepat mengaku....hahahaha....ingat para isteri, kita harus memasak makanan kegemaran suami...bukan makanan kegemaran sendiri....


Seorang isteri yang baik juga perlu sentiasa mendoakan kesejahteraan suami Dan paling penting memohon maaf pada suami sebelum tido Dan sewaktu pergi kerja....sesunguhnya ingatla syurga isteri terletak pada keredhaan suami.....so Jom berusaha menjadi isteri terbaik buat suami...insyaAllah....