Salah isteri jika tak dapat anak?

Seronok bila tengok pregnant woman. I miss my pregnancy times...seronok dapat rasa baby bergerak dalam perut Dan rasa bertuah kerana sempat merasai kuasa Allah yang satu itu.. Tapi ramai juga dikalangan kawan Dan family saya pasangan yang sudah lama mendirikan rumah tangga tapi masih belum dikurniakan anak. Salah siapa? Mesti ramai yang bertanya Soalan ini. Dah pergi check ker? Atau pun yang hebat lagi, bagi la laki kamu tu kawin lagi satu!

Typical Malaysian thinking is when a couple yang dah lama berkahwin tetapi masih belum mendapat zuriat adalah disebabkan oleh ketidakmampuan sang isteri untuk mengandung. Mungkin ini kerana, sang isteri yang mengandung, jadi adakah wajib kesalahan ini diletakkan sepenuhnya pada sang isteri?

Tahukah anda, yang punca tidak mendapat anak juga boleh disebabkan oleh sang suami? Mesti lakan...in order to get a child, both party kena participate! Berdasarkan satu article mengesahkan bahawa 40% masalah kesuburan berpunca Dari lelaki. Kajian membuktikan bahawa punca Utama tidak kesuburan lelaki adalah Dari air mani. Air mani yang dikeluarkan mengandungi weak sperma yang tidak boleh bertahan lama selepas ejakulasi. Selain itu, antara factor lain tidak kesuburan lelaki terjadi sekiranya lelaki suka mandi air panas, kuat merokok melebihi 20 batang sehari, suka memakai seluar ketat, berat bandar yang berlebihan Dan sebagainya.

So please Malaysian society out there! Do not be so typical and terus menunding jari bahawa perempuan yang bersalah sekiranya pasangan yang berkahwin tidak mendapat anak. Seeloknya, selepas satu tahun setengah berkahwin, Dan masih tidak mempunyai anak, pasangan tersebut dinasihati untuk berjumpa dengan doctor pakar.

Penangan sehangat asmara

Semua tahu yang sekarang ini, trend adaptasi novel ker drama. Bermula Dari ombak rindu, jauh, Adam Dan hawa, setia hujung nyawa, sehangat Asmara Dan banyak lagi....kami sekeluarga. Pun tak ketinggalan menjadi followers untuk drama bersiri ini termasuk Adam Dan hawa Dan yang terbaru adalah sehangat asmara.


Semalam saya sangat keletihan dan sakit kepala up to the extent that I cakap dengan hubby, Jom kita masuk tidur awal. It was 9.15 pm at that time. Tiba-tiba hubby jawab, tak nak la...sebab nak tengok cerita tu..saya tanya cerita apa , sehangat Asmara? Ha-ah jawab mr hubby. Terkejut saya...selama ini bila saya nak tunggu tayangan untuk Adam & hawa selalu dia jawab esok pun Ada ulangan...so saya Tanya lagi, best sangat ker sehangat Asmara? His answered is yes, more than Adam & hawa...I am speechless....

Sejujurnya, dalam banyak-banyak novel Aisya sofea, sehangat asmara is my favorite. Really touching and not only cover love story alone, yet cerita kekeluargaan. I must say, Rita rudaini dipilih untuk melakonkan watak kamilia najwa is totally sesuai as she really deliver good performance. Almost menangis la saya tengok bila scene Kay rindukan zainal tue...serious menjadi....thumbs up to all the crew and pelakon sehangat Asmara!

Baby development

Semalam Aisya's has start mengensot. Is that a correct word? Don't know...hahahah...we're really proud of her. She is never give up to try sampai akhirnya dapat mengensot kedepan setelah lama masuk gear reverse.

Mesti ramai ibu-ibu muda diluar sana yang Akan teruja Dan sometimes rungsing melihat perkembangan bayi mereka. Betul tak? Jangan tipu tau! Saya pun sama...sentiasa buka internet and check baby's development and compared with Aisya. Sangat taksub! Tapi dah stop dah buat benda tue...

Actually, tak elok buat macam tu sebenarnya. Akan bagi tekanan pada ibu bapa sebenarnya if the baby is not shows the development that "should" be developed at their age. Remember! Each of baby is unique and have their own time and peace. Don't stress yourself!

Saya Ada terbaca satu blog ni, and the mother is actually "help" the baby to develop his skill. Her son is yet to flip, boleh meniarap tapi tak boleh terbalik ke posisi asal, and she put his baby on his stomach until his son flip his own and just ignore the cry. Ops...saya tak boleh buat macam ni...for me biarla dia sendiri flip inward and backward. Tak mau paksa-paksa...

Pekembangan aisya is quite late, this is according to my mum la...she's start roll on her tummy when she's reached 3 months old and kind of stuck with her new skills quite sometimes. Bila almost masuk 5 bulan only then she can flip inward and backward and recently develop a new skills which is mengensot. My mum kata lambat....biasanya budak dah meniarap cepat ajer mengensot. Hahaha...I just ignored it! Yang penting Aisya sihat Dan aktif...

Dulu Dan sekarang

Topic pagi di hot fm hari ini ialah perbezaan sebelum Dan selepas kawin...what a cliche topic tapi interesting....me and hubby tergelak besar dengar komen-komen dari pendengar hot fm.
Lepas tu apalagi, I terus toleh and cakap dekat hubby, that both of us also has changed. Perubahan tak semestinya tak bagus. Dan kadangkala kita perlu berubah.

Perubahan yang paling ketara antara en hubby and me happened when we have Aisya. Now everything is totally about her. Our most prominent leisure activity Dari dulu sampai sekarang is shopping and movie. Dulu kalau keluar mesti tgk movie, makan and shopping now life's changed. Bila keluar,first off ialah cari tempat yang Ada baby room. Senang untuk change aisya's diaper. Next, the shopping mall must have easy access to lift instead of elevator. Lepas tu...barang - barang shopping pun mesti beli barang baby...mak Dan ayah dah jarang membeli...how about movie? Forget it!.!. Hahahahahha....that's our life when we have a baby.

Dari segi perubahan perhubungan dengan suami? Mr hubby not so romantic from the first time I know him...so not so much changes la...tapi for us, we still need the time alone to have fun. So mr hubby akan hantar dan jemput saya g kerja...best...tak yah drive just to enjoy our communication. Bukan itu sahaja.,.biasanya kami Akan ambil cuti once a month untuk pergi dating...ha...amacam ? Still romantic tak kami ni? You all macam mana pulak?

Aisya & vaccination

Hari ini pergi cucuk Aisya for her hepatitis b 3rd dose vaccination. Hepatitis b vaccination is a MUST Vaccination for children. Tapi sebenarnya saya nak kongsikan hukum optional vaccination yang bernama rotavirus.

Rotavirus vaccination perlu diberi pada anak berumur Dari 2 bulan sehingga 6 bulan. After 6 month rotavirus cannot be given anymore. So, what is rotavirus?

Rotavirus vaccination adalah vaccine untuk mencegah bayi Dari diarrhea and dehydration. Setiap bayi Akan Ada risiko untuk terkena jangkitan diarrhea and it might led to dehydration which can caused death. Scary kan? Tapi apa yang tak sedapnya, rotavirus is a NON-HALAL for Muslim as it sources from haiwan Babi. Ini bukan kenyataan saya yer, saya dapat maklumat ni sebenarnya Dari Internet. Actually, Aisya has received the first dose of rotavirus when she's 2months old and it was not covered by my company. Itulah puncanya saya search Internet about rotavirus and the price. Baru saya tahu it is contains pig dna.

So, when the next appointment saya memang dah tekad tak bagi rotavirus, and when I said to Aisya peads that I'm not going to give her the vaccine as its contains pig DNA, then he confirmed my findings. He even explain that there are two types of rotavirus in which both are contains with the pig DNA. He did apologized though! Tak boleh salahkan dia jugak, sebab dia non-Muslim and he thought that small portion of pig DNA is safe for Muslim.

Majlis fatwa Negara dah keluarkan kenyataan about this vaccine actually on 31/8/2008 said that keadaan Negara kita tak darurat sehingga memerlukan penggunaan rotavirus, jadi ianya haram. So, to parents out there, it is your choice whether you want to proceed or not with this vaccine just be aware with it!

Some info on Eczema

Semenjak Aisya is diagnosed with eczema, I start searching on eczema, the causes, occurrence, signs and symptoms, the treatment and so on...

So thought that I wanna share a bit information that I've got.

What is eczema?
Eczema atau Nama lainnya atopic dermatitis is an inflammation of the upper layers of the skin. The term eczema is applied to a range of persistent or recurring skin rashes of itching and dryness, redness, skin edema with possibility of crusting, talking, blistering, cracking, oozing and even bleeding. Eczema is not contagious yet severe eczema can lead to SKIN CANCER.

When does eczema normally occur?
Most babies tend to have dry skin soon after birth. Normally eczema berlaku bila baby berusia 6 bulan atau satu tahun caused mainly by hereditary and some environmental factors and foods, such as cow's milk. However, baby yang dijangkiti eczema Akan beransur pulih when they reach 6 years and above. Tetapi, eczema boleh terjadi sekali lagi bila baby sudah dewasa and normally happens at times of stress.

What are the signs and symptoms of eczema?
In infants, eczema appears as an itchy rash. It appears as red skin pada pipi, leher even scalp. In older children, the rash appears on the inner forearm, behind the knees and inside the elbow. Ada juga eczema appears pada kelopak mata, tapak tangan Dan tapak kaki.

Apa yang menyebabkan eczema merebak?
In some people, they are allergy to dust mites, animal allergens and pollens. A bacterial, fungal or viral infection can cause flare-ups of eczema.

Eczema treatment and management.
Firstly, kita perlu menjaga kebersihan. Kebanyakkan babies yang menghidapi eczema is allergic to dust mites. So parents perlu membersihkan rumah, lap lantai Dan selalu menukar bed sheet.

Important!!! Bathing is important part of eczema treatment and is vital for removing bacteria. Caution!!! Jangan mandikan baby yang menghidapi eczema menggunakan hot/warm water. Ianya boleh further irritate the compromised skin condition.

Ibu bapa juga diingatkan to maintain skin hydration. The oily layers that normally controls moisture loss is defective in eczema patients. After a bath, the skin should be pat-dried and moisturizer promptly.

So far, itu jer la info yang dapat saya kongsikan. If you have further info, Jom kita kongsikan!

Normal delivery vs c-section

Each of pregnant woman will scared bila dekat dengan waktu untuk bersalin. Siapa yang tak risau? First of mesti nervous to know whether we can endure the contraction pain. Secondly must be wondering how to make a correct push for the baby. Even experience mother who has delivered 2 or 3 babies will feel scare or nervous setiap Kali nak beranak.

So, are you prefer normal delivery or c-section? When having Aisya, I have set my mind to go for vaginal delivery. My OBgyn actually a little bit scared because I have asthma, but do support me to go for normal delivery, but by the end of the day I have to endured cesarean as I dah tumpah darah. Seriously, normal delivery has so much advantage as compared to c-sec. The first advantage is, normal delivery will automatically push the fluid to go out from the baby lung. Secondly, baby is being introduce with the "good" bacteria through the vaginal canal, helps form the baby heads and some doctor even said that baby who went through for normal delivery Lebih kuat daya saing. To mommies, normal delivery wounds are much easier to take care of. Tapi after that kena banyak buat kegel exercise la yer....

Sometimes the mother can't go through with the normal delivery. Some cases like if the mother have diabetes and the baby is more than 4kg, doc will advise to go for c-sec. Besar tu baby, takut tulang pelvis tak support the baby. Another case if the mother have high blood pressure that reach 150 confirm masuk OT.. There is high risk of the mother Akan tumpah darah when doc performs the operation and the risk losing the mother is high. The mother also Ada risiko darah beku pada kaki, paru-paru Dan pelvis, jangkitan kuman pada rahim Dan etc..

Tapi, kita pun tak tahu keadaannya waktu bersalin...mungkin memang kena perform c-sec atas sebab-sebab tertentu like baby songsang, placenta pecah etc...so banyak2 berdoa agar dipermudahkan urusan bersalin....InsyaAllah....